I hate the effort and sweat of fitness training (and everything else, come to think of it) – until I have finished!

Last night I put myself through 45 minutes of circuit training, followed by 60 minutes of kickboxing fitness training (it was a killer session). I really wanted to shout at the instructor (who just so happens to be my eldest daughter), “RIGHT, lady – I’ve just about had enough of this! I am 61 you know – don’t you think you are being ridiculously unreasonable in your demands?”, and slope miserably off to the sidelines. In my fantasy world, that’s exactly what I did do; in the real world, I gritted my teeth and kept going. And although I can still feel every inch of it in so many muscles, I can also feel the underlying benefit. I know for sure that I will force myself through several more sessions this coming week, too… and the week after that, etc, etc.

Late this morning I sat in front of my laptop, and couldn’t think of a single thing to write about. NCIS was on the TV, in the background, and I suddenly remembered that I wanted to check out my American cousin’s eBay site, to see how it is doing, and whether or not it is worth giving it another go myself (I decided that it isn’t). I considered going into the kitchen to get something else to eat, and wondered if I needed another cup of tea or not… and all the while, an insistent, uneasy guilt was nagging away at me: “you’re supposed to be writing today, and developing other aspects of your business – remember?”. I did remember, but procrastinating was a whole lot easier than making myself actually put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard). Obviously, I did eventually start… by writing about my own resistance, and the desire to avoid effort at all costs! Read more

Self-employed? Are difficult customers holding you back? Don’t be afraid to trim!

My own business journey has been a long one, and I have had to grow, and grow up, in so many different ways. I have had to take criticism on board (sometimes rather grudgingly, I am afraid), consistently review and refine my delivery, whilst continuing to reassess exactly what it is all about; in my role as an intuitive consultant, I offer a service rather than a product, and I need to be absolutely rock solid in my mind about the nature and purpose of that service… which isn’t always as easy as it sounds!

I am also a self-published writer (though not one who is getting rich anytime soon!), and that journey has been a massive learning curve. Currently, I haven’t attracted a single critical 1-star review on Amazon, but that is because I haven’t yet risen above the level of the writing-world-bottom-dweller… but hopefully, it will come, when I have more books out there and have worked on making myself more visible! All of the greats have their outspoken critics, and I believe that it is an unavoidable part of the journey toward success. So, even though I am incredibly grateful for my 5-star reviews, there ain’t any laurels being rested upon around here! Read more

“What’s the matter love? Going through the menopause?” Man-in-a-van gives me a wake-up call!

On the 6th February, I wrote the following post, on my Facebook business page:

This week I have attracted two separate confrontational incidents into my life. The first time it happened I wrote it off as just a random incident. The second time it happened (which was the following day!), I had to ask myself what was going on with ME, rather than what was going on with other people! I am not proud of how I reacted either, the second time around, swearing like a trooper at a ‘man in a van’, who sneered, “what’s the matter love? Going through the menopause?” whilst his friend sniggered. I called him a f*****g pig (amongst other things, and now you can see why I’m not proud of myself). I had a troubled night, digging deep into my psyche, looking for the raw spot… and I found a couple of them. I really wasn’t bothered about the menopause insult, but I think I might have actually attracted it, because I have been thinking a lot about life at the age of 61 and onward, recently, and the different qualities it brings. I am not unhappy about aging, but I have become aware of how invisible we can become (or maybe just feel) when we are no longer in the flush of youth. And I am aware that, realistically speaking, there aren’t a huge number of years left, to achieve the things I want to… and that maybe I am not putting in enough consistent effort! And I think that this has maybe been creating unconscious frustration – leading me to cross paths with pig man! Time to do some internal clearing and healing, and some accepting…

On the 7th February, I followed up with the post below: Read more

Stretch yourself daily – for long-term flexibility and freedom of movement!

I used to launch myself into an exercise session without a single second of warming up… but that was before I knew better!

Impatience was generally behind my lack of wisdom, but it never really paid off. And if kickboxing has taught me anything, it is that there is definitely no room for impatience where fitness and skill is concerned; it also reminded me of something Anthony Robbins has repeatedly expressed: repetition (and practice) is the key to mastery (which obviously applies to every aspect of life, not just martial arts).

But, what if you are not really interested in investing major time and energy into a fitness program – can you still benefit from warm-up stretches? Absolutely! And even if you have to start in small ways, due to health restrictions, it doesn’t matter; a small, consistently repeated movement will develop into something a little more ambitious… and that will develop into something more ambitious than that! Read more

5 ‘rules’ of visualisation – a powerful tool, when WE are ready to use it!

If we are always going to be thinking something and creating pictures/images in our mind, it is probably a good idea to have some kind of say over the content… after all, we all know how easy it is for our mind to behave as if it has a will of its own, completely independent of us!

So, if we regularly engage in conscious, aspirational thinking and imagery, we are surely helping ourselves to feel more hopeful about our future, and more inspired by our life in general? A much-admired television personality has expressed the view that it is wrong to encourage people to believe that they can change their lives by indulging in visualisation techniques, but I think that that might have more to do with his personal beliefs, than concern for others. Having said that, I can see (and have seen), how disheartening it can be for those who are desperate to create or attract something they so badly want and need… only to find that no matter how many affirmations they chant, no matter how often they visualise, nothing much changes at all: from that point of view, I can understand where he is coming from. Read more

You have the power to start feeling better NOW – that HAS to be worth smiling about!

I was looking at some pictures of myself and my partner, taken around 5 years ago, and I was disappointed to see how much my face had aged. I gazed at my straight-faced reflection in the mirror, and it suddenly struck me… what was missing was my smile! I grinned warmly into my own eyes, and then glanced back at the pictures… and was heartened to see that, actually, there wasn’t a huge amount of difference between the younger me, and the current, older me. Some aging, yes; a plumper face, agreed – but the smile somehow negated enough of that to be reassuring!

Now, I understand, it doesn’t take a genius to work out that a smiling face looks more alive and vibrant than one adorned with a serious or vacant expression: however, I suddenly became acutely aware of how my face felt, when I wasn’t smiling… and the word that immediately came to mind was droopy… and who the hell wants to feel droopy? It is hardly high energy! Read more

The pain and anguish of female guilt… but maybe it isn’t ALL bad!

I know for sure that it isn’t just me; I am not the only woman who consistently beats herself up for a roll call of self-proclaimed ‘crimes’ that she just can’t let herself off the hook for. But I am working on it, and if you can relate to what I am wittering on about, I invite you to join me!

Here are the main sources of my guilt:

my children

my work

my diet and fitness

my lack of wisdom in the past Read more